I’ve changed my mind six times about today’s post. The topic is was change. Ironic? Moronic? Maybe. Things are changing all the time. Why are we resistant to some changes more than other?
Kei’s little theory for today:
All resistance to change is connected to fear of the unknown, and the ultimate unknown is Death.
When things change, the old way becomes obsolete. Something dies. And we are reminded of Death. And all our fears become one fear. I thought I had a fair acceptance of Death. It’s the fine print of the contract we all signed. And yet I am still flummoxed big change.
Kei’s little wonder for the day:
If Death symbolized a new beginning instead of an ending, would change be less scary?
7 Comments
Hijackinthebox · May 2, 2012 at 2:02 PM
I’m afraid, people always feel scared of changes. They rather stay with the negative but familiar than to risk something new even if this new could be better.
Strange world. Strange people 😉
(And I urgently need an avatar, damn!)
(I apologize for any mistakes within my comment – I am not a native speaker ;))
just *k · May 2, 2012 at 10:42 PM
No apologies necessary. Thanks for being fearless enough to share your thoughts!
Hijackinthebox · May 3, 2012 at 1:18 AM
Btw – are you scared of Death? Just asking.
I am not scared of Death. I like Death (not only because it is one of Neil Gaiman’s cutest figures I’ve ever seen). The only thing I am scared in the context of Death is the procedure of dying.
However, concerning all other changes I often turn out to be the ”motor” for change, even though I actually like it when things stay as they are. *laughs*
Sry for spamming, but this came to my mind when reading your post again.
just *k · May 4, 2012 at 12:09 AM
hmmm, don’t’ *think* i’m afraid of death, agree the procedure makes me anxious (dependent on the specific details)… but i’m curious about my anxiety around major changes… like changing careers, countries, that kind of thing.
StillValerie · May 7, 2012 at 12:32 PM
Hi Kei:
In response to your last question, my answer is maybe – only if we can embrace the uncertainty of the unknown new beginning. Impermanence (change) is a universal truth, although we may not always readily accept it, especially when it comes to our mortality. Yet, if we view death and dying as a process of tranformation, perhaps we could accept its inevitability easier.
You may find this post interesting on this subject: http://thestillspot.wordpress.com/2012/05/02/death-is-not-an-end-but-a-transformation/
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