you’ve got to feel it to believe it

A little something to share…Grief’s Not a Disease! (thedailybeast.com)

As far as I see it, you can’t medicate grief.  You can try but you will fail.  It’s going to hurt, but it’s going to hurt more the longer you put it off – kind of like removing a band-aid.  And the truth is you can’t completely numb it.  I drank a lot when my mother passed, not necessarily Barfly style binges but enough happy hours and regular cocktails to keep everything in check emotions-wise.  You know, the tipple to ‘take the edge off the day’.  The day will pass but the pain and loss remain.  And so it goes day after day.

Grief will not be denied.  While it lays swaddled in an emotional safe deposit box and mistaken for dormant , it accrues interest – the sting and stab of it deepening exponentially.  And when the grief hits, it will slap with the vengeance of a spurned lover.   But as you grieve the grief lessens… slowly, but surely.

The only way to get through it is to go through it.